growlbadkitty: sutblr: dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts: Curious Friday, in reverse. For this week’s…

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Curious Friday, in reverse.

For this week’s Curious Friday I would like to know which advice – only one – you deam the most important to give to any debuting person into our community.

As always anonymous answers are allowed.

@dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts , that there is a community and you are not an island.. reach out.

“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.”

~Frida Kahlo. ?❤️

If they’ve already decided, then I would say:

People define categories, not the other way around. You can still be a domme and enjoy receiving a good spanking. You can still be a sub and hate collars. Everyone is an individual human. … and for most of us, kinksters are sex nerds and, with nerds, you can’t fit in if you’re trying to fit in. Be into what you’re into and enjoy that others are able to do the same.

Gloving up and dancing ???❤️ my two favorite things to do!

Gloving up and dancing ???❤️ my two favorite things to do!

tame-tygress: Fun With Your Body…I want to suck your cock when it’s soft. I want to slide under the…

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Fun With Your Body…

I want to suck your cock when it’s soft. I want to slide under the covers and wrap my lips around you when you least expect it. I want to roll you around in my mouth as I play. I want you to fight your erection for me as long as you can. Your heavy breaths as you squirm are everything to me. I want to hear the sounds of you admitting defeat as your cock begins to lengthen and reach for my throat. It’s okay baby boy you didn’t ruin my fun. My fun with your body has just begun…

dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts: To reply to an ask. Look at this,…

dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts:

To reply to an ask. Look at this, Anon.

Who says dominating your partner/boy equals needing ‘a bunch of stuff’? Sure, it’s a possibility and almost certain will happen at some point as you both grow in your roles. It is however not required at all.

fallinginward: redlips-and-bighips: cute-blue: Voluntary…

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Voluntary Feminization, #4 “Oh, you wanted me to put this inside you? I don’t know… maybe I’ll just let it sit here for a while longer.”

Ok guys, big moment for me. I realized something today, just now in fact. I saw this and liked it but wasn’t gonna reblog it because I didn’t think it fit with either of my blogs…. but then I made myself think about WHY it didn’t fit… and the answer made me mad at myself:

I realized that some unconscious part of my brain saw femboys/guys in lingerie or traditionally femme clothes as inherently submissive.

AND THATS FUCKED UP because that means that in some part of my brain I still felt like being femme is a submissive quality. Or I thought that dressing femme should make a guy feel embarrassed or shy or more subservient or whatever (I don’t exactly have the words for it because it was an unconscious prejudice that I just became aware of). I have now felt the appropriate amount of shame and disgust at myself and I am moving forward having removed those prejudices from my mind.

Long story short: men in skirts and heels and makeup can be just as sexy and dominant as a man in a suit or a dominatrix in a skin tight body suit or whatever we usually picture when we think of dominants.

Edit: this doesn’t specify the gender of this person so it could also be a trans woman or genderqueer individual, any of whom could also be damn good dominants

THAAAAANK YOOOOOU! This often confuses people when I try to explain it. This was a greaaaaat explanation.

This is why I’m not into feminization. I just can’t shake the feeling that I’m unwittingly participating in femdom misogyny, that if it’s about humiliation then I’m figuratively helping her backhand herself.

I’m surprised I’ve never heard of dommes who dress their male subs up in quintessential MALE clothing like hard hats or wife beater shirts or cargo shorts as part of accentuation and humiliation. I don’t think I would be into that, I think I’d find it silly, but at least I wouldn’t feel like I was getting a domme insult herself merely by participating.