Craving The Cage


I’ve been locked in chastity for 84 of the last 101 days. I truly crave the feeling now. I kissed her sweetly and thanked her for choosing to lock me in my snuggest little Contender cage. This was after a few intense edges for me, and a slow touch-less pouring out. It was a perfect ruin that kept me rock hard. I watched myself spill several seconds after her last touch. Her hand was gently squeezing my balls as she spooned me. We struggled to get me back into my cage. The tight cage audibly popped over my bulging glans. It took a while for my shaft to relax and get half soft so she could press fit the cage and fasten it to the tight base ring. But she looked so pleased with herself afterwards.

She was impressed. She was literally glowing at her own skills and general awesomeness. She was doing a cute little smug dance after I was all caged up. She says that tease and denial keeps me “happy”, and my hard edges and orgasm-less spills keep me “healthy”.

One of my mentors doesn’t like chastity belts because she wants that continual submission that chastity devices take away, and my thought was “… but it’s hot!”

As I read @simmer-until I realize that if you accept that there are safewords, that continual submission can come easier yet in some ways is more profound.

After the next hill is always another horizon.Toying only with…

After the next hill is always another horizon.

Toying only with nipples while an untouched cock strains within underwear is not as tormenting as light tickling though underwear is not as tormenting as a combination of light and firm strokes through underwear is not as tormenting as fingertips occasionally dipping within the underwear is not as tormenting as hands reaching within for full touching is not as tormenting as underwear cut free so that hands have complete and direct access is not as tormenting as the inclusion of lube is not as tormenting as…

Each and every escalation feels like mercy, but after each hill is always a new horizon. How many steps until the first edge? How many steps afterwards?

dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts: thrilledbytease:I really DO love…



I really DO love these more subtle cock control gifs and photos!!! I can almost feel his need and anticipation of what she will do next!!!

This! So much of this!!

Slow allows time for anticipation. And fear.

Ok stay with me here



You know clap lights

Clap on clap off clap on etc

How about a game where

Every time I slap you you can start jerking off

But at the next slap you instantly must stop

Hoping for me to smack you again so you can touch your twitching self

And sometimes I’ll do several in a row and fuck you better keep up

And you just kinda hope you’re able to finish before I get bored or it hurts too much

And I can slap any part of you, face, ass, thighs, chest, anything

So it hurts but you’re so so so close

Torn between dreading and craving the pain

Maybe you can beg for one more slap ….


That really does seem like fun.

Interesting spin on the ol red-light green-light game. 🙂

Handjob with hitachi, post orgasm torture An oldie but…

Handjob with hitachi, post orgasm torture

An oldie but goodie!

For dommes looking to improve their POT technique, (call me :-D, also ) notice how after he cums (about 7:45), when she strokes him with her hand, the attention she gives to the lower half of his cock is pretty much wasted, but he jumps when his tip is stroked.

wifesguidetotad: ***Step 3*** Let’s be honest it would be…


***Step 3***

Let’s be honest it would be great if everyone had 2 hours every night to fool around and make love but the truth is life gets in the way. With work and family, no one expects you to put on an entire sex show every night. However, bored men will find ways to be entertained. Whether it’s by playing with themselves or by seeking out help elsewhere. One of the benefits of this tease and denial, is it only takes a few minutes, brings you closer than ever with your partner, and you will literally become the sole attention of your man. He will do anything and everything you want. Your pleasure will come first, in and out of the bedroom. When he gets home from work, tease him. Play with his little guy and talk dirty to him. When he gets close to finishing he will ask for permission and you will let go of him completely. This is called edging because you bring him right to the edge of finishing and then stopping.

My husband explains edging to me like this… He says before meeting me when he used to masterbate his orgasms felt like 2 out of 10s. When he hooked up with a girlfriend it felt like a 4 out of 10. When he had a one night stand a 6 out of 10 because it was more exciting than boring vanilla sex. But the longer I tease him, the longer I make him wait, the more times I edge him the better it feels and we are talking about 12 out of 10. His words, not mine. I didn’t get it at first but that’s just because guys and girls are made different. And the same time I don’t care… if it makes him happy and in return makes me even happier I’ll tease him until he is blue in the face.

So what is the goal? Edge him. Edge him every night until he can’t take it anymore. Make sure he is giving you lots of pleasure in and out of the bedroom. Don’t give in too soon. And take note of the way his behavior has changed in order to make you happy as he tries to convince you to let him finish.

faontk: Suggested Genital Massage Strokes There are many…


Suggested Genital Massage Strokes

There are many different massage strokes that feel good on male genitals.

Healing Stroke – With the penis resting on the belly, cup the balls with one hand. The heel of the palm of the other hand glides up and down the underside of the penis all the way to the tip. 

Anvil Stroke – Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat the stroke, creating an alternating motion. 

Climbing the Mountain – Take the penis in one hand and gently, sensuously caress it for about ten seconds, then give it one quick up-and-down stroke. Repeat the sensuous caressing for about ten seconds (perhaps using slow up-and-down strokes), and then give the penis two quick up-and-down strokes. Repeat the caressing, then give three quick strokes, etc. Continue until ejaculation approaches inevitability. 

Light a fire – One of the interesting ways to do a hand job is to grab the penis with both hands, as if you were holding a stick and wanted to light a fire, like you see Indians do in the movies. Unlike the stick, you naturally do not want to set fire to the penis. So, do not rub the penis as hard as you can because this may cause a burning and unpleasant sensation, but knead it between your hands with feeling.

Pressure to the penis – With one hand, pull the skin of the penis towards the root. Then grab his penis there and push slightly. This way your hand has a similar effect as a penis ring. With your other hand, squeeze the penis on different spots and use about the same rhythm. The squeeze can last as long as you want it to. It it best that it is not too strong or too long.

Massage the head – Grab the penis in one hand so that the head is facing upwards. Pour a lot of oil on the other hand. Make circles with your palm on the head of the penis. Every once in a while change the direction of the circling.

Sliding – Grab his balls with one hand. The balls should rest in a relaxed way in your hands and you should gently squeeze them once in a while, as if you were massaging them. With your other hand, place the penis on his belly and slide with your palm along the lower side of his penis, from the root to the head. The hand should be placed parallel to his penis, in such a way that you slide alongside the penis with your fingers as well. Do not grip it with your whole hand, like with ordinary rubbing.

The Milker – Milk your hands alternately up his penis. Start at the base, and move all the way up past the head.

Corkscrew – Hold the base with one hand, stroke up the shaft to the head with the other hand and corkscrew your hand off the head.

Fire – Rub his penis between both hands as if you’re rubbing sticks to make a fire.

Doorknob – Turn your hand around the head as if turning a doorknob.

Ring – Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger. Pump up the shaft in short strokes, coming closer to the head each time.

Feather light – Stroke gently from the perineum, over the testicles, up the shaft to the head and back, very gently.

Perpetual Penetration – Make loose fists and stroke from the top of the head, to just beneath the head, using hand over hand.

Finger Pleasure – With the tip of your index finger make a circle where the shaft and head meet.

Thumbing – Circle the head with your thumb.

Suggestion for teasers with a penis-bodied submissive:
Start a reblog of this.
Note your criteria for judging each technique (is it tiring for you to do? How it feels to you, how good it feels for him, how easily they edge from it, how you’d enjoy their reactions when you’re feeling gentle, how you’d enjoy their reactions when feeling cruel, how effective a torment it would be if you switched to it just after his orgasm, etc.
Save the post as a draft.
Get a zip-lock sandwhich bag, bendy straws, coconut oil, and a way to restrain him that you will both be comfortable for a while.
Wait until you have lots of time.

Get a glass of water with a bendy straw for him, when he’s thirsty.
Tie him down, maybe blindfold him, too?
Put your phone in the sandwich bag and close it to protect it from your soon-to-be-oily hands.
Bring up the saved draft post.
Practice each stroke, taking notes along the way.
Start experimenting for real, testing each stroke against your criteria, pausing to take notes every time he gets too close.

Tell him you’re done but, before you untie him, go over your findings with him. Slowly, with plenty of demonstration, for him to agree or disagree with. For each technique, ask him what he could improve to make it feel even more frustrating for him. Helpfully continue to use that stroke so he doesn’t have to rely on memory, and do not move on to the next stroke until you feel his feedback has adequately improved your technique.

Adjust this test plan as the situation dictates.

femdomgames: Bend his cock back and masturbate him from behind….


Bend his cock back and masturbate him from behind. In this position he is very vulnerable as both his ass and balls are easily accessible for you. The more you pull his cock back the more he will push his ass out towards you to ease the strain. This position also makes it impossible for him to pump his penis against your hand so you are in full control of what stimuli he receives.

keephimcaged: asubmissivestory: pansexualbdsm: hmmmm Pllay…





Pllay with my nipples like this and I am quickly blubbering putty in your hands. Just in case that’s something you wanted to know.

It’s true, don’t underestimate the power of playing with his nipples. If I want to get him hard in his cage whispering something dirty to him while I play with his nipples is always effective!

Also, every little bit of her mannerisms suggest that this is intimate fun for her. The dommes I’m most attracted to are the ones who fucking care, the ones who feel connected and delighted to make me suffer for them. If I can tell, if I can tap into that, then I… I just want to help!

teasingdenialandruinedorgasms: Do this to me once and I’ll…


Do this to me once and I’ll never escape your clutches..

As a switch, it’s amazing to me how easy it is to do this to someone when it’s so hard to take as a bottom!

Dominate ur man




1. Make him strip naked while you keep your clothes on.
2. Have him kneel before you and kiss your feet.
3. Have him address you as ‘Mistress’
4. Have him kiss your ass… make him beg to kiss your ass.
5. Tie his hands and have him undress you with his mouth/teeth.
6. Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without your permission at any time.
7. Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of you while you read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with your shoes.
8. Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!
9. Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever you please.
10. Show your slave your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.
11. Tie your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum!
12. Put on his favourite lingerie and tease him with your feminine beauty.
13. Scratch him with your finger nails. Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.
14. Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.
15. Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else you might do.
16. Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of your panties…get more promises
17. Blindfold him and make him lick you to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.
18. Rub his face against your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick you.
19. Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell your panties or kiss your ass…stay just out of reach.
20. Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator. Be vocal.
21. Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy you with it. Do it so his nose presses between your ass cheeks. He’ll be your little brown-noser and love it… Make him lick the dildo clean.
22. Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.
23. Put your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.
24. Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well in a pinch, even a zip tie, but be careful not to cut off circulation)

Great ideas for a Domme. Think I’ll print this out as a small 3 x 5 and laminate it. It’s good to have a cheat sheet for when I’m tired and need some inspiration. Choreographing sex requires real effort by a top. Most women don’t know that – they rely on the man to initiate things, whether they are particularly submissive or not. And most submissive men probably have a list of ideas 10 times as long as this which they keep in their head. But if they suggest or take the lead, that kind of foils the whole dynamic.

Because lists.
Because yes, please.

keephimcaged: That’s it baby, stroke it to the edges while I…


That’s it baby, stroke it to the edges while I watch. Give me ten hard edges. But if you go over I will lock your dick up for a month, is that clear?